Not even 60%, but he's the love of my life

Recently I saw two romantic comedy movies. 

One was This means war, starring Reese Witherspoon, Tom Hardy and Chris Pine. I don't want to start by saying bad things about it right away, so I will say the quote below is the only good thing I saw in it.

If you didn't see it, it's basically a story about how these two guys who are best friends, both work as spies and are really rich. They meet Reese, like her a lot, and start competing with each other who will win her over in the end. To sum it up, they use their spy resources to stalk her, get in her apartment when they can, put cameras everywhere, listen to her conversations and also listen to each others dates with her, with the goal of spending enormous amounts of money to take her on dates and pretend they like what she likes. So Chris takes her to see original Gustav Klimt paintings, Tom takes her on a car ride on a race track in her favorite car and so on. They also both have sex with her and fall in love with her in a week or two. 

Finally they meet, they fight each other, she finds it all out, and after an action ending where they all almost get killed, she chooses Chris, and Tom is like: "ok whatevs you guys are perfect for each other so Imma get back with my ex." 

Honestly, what the fuck?

In what universe is it okay for them to stalk her around and invade her privacy like that and to lie to her about everything they do and like? In what universe is it alright for her to string them both along? 

This scenario is only acceptable because they are all hot and rich. If they weren't, she would call the police because some creepers are stalking her life.

Kind of like 50 shades of gray. Only acceptable to people because he is rich. If he wasn't, he would be a weirdo who shows up at her house, stalks her and wants to hit her because that's the only way he can get off. She would never be with him otherwise.

This is not to say girls only go for hot rich guys, I'm just saying, if you look at these scripts in a different way, both would be extremely creepy and weird stories.

This is why girls have unrealistic expectations from men.

Like oh, I will just walk around in my heels, bump into a guy, he will pick up my stuff and he will fall in love with me only based on my looks. Then he will hack the database of the place we bumped into and find me and take me on expensive unrealistic dates and I will fall in love with him because he has an, again, unrealistically huge apartment in the center of the city. He will also introduce me to his family after one week of knowing each other. Bitch please. 

Another thing, how unrealistic it is that they are both 100% perfect for her, and she for them?

This is where I found the other movie I watched, much better. The five year engagement, starring Jason Segel and Emily Blunt. In general the cast in there is great, which made me want to keep watching it. The humor is great, but not that cheesy classic lame humor like in the movie before. 
Basically, Emily gets a job in another city, he leaves his dream job and moves there for her and is extremely unhappy. They keep postponing their wedding because they constantly encounter some issues in the relationship. They end up cheating on each other, breaking up because they realized they want different things and finally after the break up, they get in new different relationships, but they still think about each other sometimes.

Then, he talks to his parents, and here I heard THE quote:

Carol Solomon (The mom):  What are you doing with Violet (Emily Blunt)? You're being dumb! You are being so fucking dumb, you idiot. You love Violet. I love Violet. Your father loves Violet and you're letting her go. Fuck you, you dummy.

Tom Solomon (Jason Segel): Wow. Since when do you talk like this?

Carol Solomon: It's not funny, Tom.

Tom Solomon: Okay, fine.

Carol Solomon: What are you doing?

Tom Solomon: We're not 100% right for each other so there's nothing to be said.

Carol Solomon: I've got news for you, moron. Your father and I, we're not even 90% right for each other. Not even 60%, but he's the love of my life. And right now the love of your life is going to fly away and somewhere in the back of your mind you're thinking that she'll always be there if you want to try again. But you know what, she won't because she's the goddamn best. And some lucky guy is going to make it work with her no matter what, instead of settling for some 23-year old airhead who probably doesn't know who the fucking Beatles are.

Boom. Not like in the Reese movie, where they are all so 100% perfect for each other, no one has flaws and she is "struggling" to decide who she will choose. Because no one, no one can be a 100% right for anyone. In every relationship there are things you don't like but you tolerate, because you love them and you are aware that sometimes there will be hard times, but in the end your love is your love, and you wouldn't and shouldn't try to change it. There is no right cookie, you just choose one and take a bite.

I wish I saw this movie before, I think I would have better expectations of relationships and a different view on them. And I wish they made more of these movies, kind of like the Break up with Jennifer Aniston and Vince Vaughn, probably the only movie where the couple doesn't end up together happily ever after, but realizes they aren't happy and move on. 

Hearing this quote, in something I was expecting to be a classic romcom, was the moment I realized there is no happily ever after and no perfect movie-like relationships. You just have to pick who you want by your side at your best and worst moments in life and who's % of "right for you" makes the % missing irrelevant.

In the end of the movie, they do get back together and finally get married. That is not to say that's the answer. Everyone knows their answer for their situation. Probably when you read this you were thinking about one person, somewhere around the "love of my life" part. And if you were, that's great, follow that feeling. Your instincts never lie, you just need to listen to them. And if you weren't thinking of anyone, well that's OK too, you have a great thing to look forward too. 

But real, true, requited love is the single most amazing thing to ever experience, and realizing there is no such thing as the 100% perfect one, makes life so much easier.